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Post by Sleepy on Oct 2, 2010 19:09:10 GMT -5
That's a bad excuse. I wouldn't try much more with her.
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Post by davedan on Oct 2, 2010 23:12:30 GMT -5
Ask other girls to go to the dance now, I would start with her sister and best friend
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Post by Mira on Oct 3, 2010 0:21:42 GMT -5
I would recommend asking others. It will have the dual effect of you not fixating on this one girl and also helping to reduce your anxiety for the future.
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Post by Old Viking on Oct 3, 2010 17:01:51 GMT -5
I don't remember it as being this complicated. Hit on head with club, drag by hair to cave.
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Post by The_L on Oct 4, 2010 5:35:35 GMT -5
Viking, we love you.
As for me, I....never mind, it's complicated.
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Post by mokey42 on Oct 5, 2010 22:42:44 GMT -5
Because I didn't see if there was another thread like this already up, and I find it to be relevant to what I'm going to ask you guys about. Now, I recently asked this girl for her number, and she gave it to me, and that we might be able to hang out once she's back in town (she went to New York for the summer). So my question is... NOW WHAT? I've been making small talk with her over facebook, and stuff like that, but as the summer nears a close and the school year begins again, I can't exactly stick with smalltalk when there's opportunity for so much more. We both share similar interests, but let's be honest here; I can barely even maintain a conversation with a member of the opposite sex. I've only gotten as far as I did with the help of the Internet... I am scared shitless of screwing something up, and leaving her never wanting to talk to me again, or leaving myself feeling like this is the case. So I come to you, FSTDT, to help me with how to handle this situation. Tell her this, word for word. And I guarantee you it will be the best leg-opener of all time.
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Post by Sleepy on Oct 5, 2010 23:40:35 GMT -5
I have to say I disagree.
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Post by Art Vandelay on Oct 6, 2010 0:26:39 GMT -5
Maybe if you cut out the "I've only gotten as far as I did with the help of the Internet... " part, it'll make for an endearing sob story. I must say though in its current state it just seems a little creepy.
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Post by The_L on Oct 6, 2010 6:41:38 GMT -5
Yeah, the way it is, is almost like saying "I've been watching yoooooou, on the Internet," then flopping it out.
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Post by Bezron on Oct 6, 2010 8:54:46 GMT -5
Because I didn't see if there was another thread like this already up, and I find it to be relevant to what I'm going to ask you guys about. Now, I recently asked this girl for her number, and she gave it to me, and that we might be able to hang out once she's back in town (she went to New York for the summer). So my question is... NOW WHAT? I've been making small talk with her over facebook, and stuff like that, but as the summer nears a close and the school year begins again, I can't exactly stick with smalltalk when there's opportunity for so much more. We both share similar interests, but let's be honest here; I can barely even maintain a conversation with a member of the opposite sex. I've only gotten as far as I did with the help of the Internet... I am scared shitless of screwing something up, and leaving her never wanting to talk to me again, or leaving myself feeling like this is the case. So I come to you, FSTDT, to help me with how to handle this situation. Tell her this, word for word. And I guarantee you it will be the best leg-opener of all time. Yeah, no. Seriously, don't do that. While a good sob story can often help to part a pretty set of legs, this one comes off as more desperate than anything. If you are seriously interested in pursuing this (and I honestly think that you should leave it alone for awhile), then you should tell her this: Hi, pretty girl that I am totally crushing on. To be honest, I really like you and think you like me too. I am scared that my attempts to express this will cause you to rethink any small bit of consideration that you have for me and chase you away. So, I am putting it right out there: I would like to go on a date with you and see if there is any spark. Will you go out with me? Obviously, I wrote that in about 5 minutes so you'll need to reword it slightly. The idea, though, is to mix just enough honesty and sensitivity (you like her and are worried about scaring her off) and confidence (throwing it out there, and damn the consequences). This way, she knows where you stand and can either say yes or no (or put you solidly into the friend zone). You have to keep telling yourself that the worst she can do is say no. She may also ask when and where and then shoot it down with another excuse. If that happens, then immediately follow up by asking her when and where is good for her. That way, she has to stop hedging.
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Post by BeingFrankwithYou on Nov 3, 2010 0:00:49 GMT -5
So how did it go with her in the end?
One thing that really helped me when I was 15 to get over the nerves of talking to women was to befriend a whole lot of them, once I realised that women were not in fact from another planet and didnt mean to eat my soul (well perhaps some do) I quickly got over the phase of being 'afraid' of them, and all interactions from then on went as smoothly as they could be...
another tip that has been mentioned several times here before, but still deserves being mentioned again, is that you should not consider the initial results, if she says no, who cares? if she says yes, then you win. keep in mind that you have nothing to loose ther, but a whole lot to gain, what matters is that you make the effort to overcome one of the most irrational fears out there, after all, dont you get the same results by being rejected than by never gathering the courage to make the move? I know which one is the most regretable for sure.
or you could just flash her your dong, she may be into that
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Post by Vypernight on Nov 11, 2010 4:28:46 GMT -5
I don't remember it as being this complicated. Hit on head with club, drag by hair to cave. Viking, this is the 21st Century. Now they hit You over the head and drag you back to Their cave.
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Post by wolfgangravenna on Nov 25, 2010 16:11:22 GMT -5
Eh, i'm not one to get into monogamous relationships, mainly because i favour maintaining a relationship rather than blow through one intensely then cutting that tie due to the awkwardness/hurt feelings, etc. I have had 2 relationships, one really short, one fairly long. The long one ended because 60% of the attraction was physical, and you can't really do that when she lives far away. I've gone on what some would consider dates, but they're usually just coffee dates with friends, nothing like the usual "See a movie, have dinner, go clubbing" stuff. But as for relationships, yeah, the sex sucks in friendships, but at least they don't end as easily.
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Post by tygerarmy on Nov 26, 2010 0:32:56 GMT -5
I don't remember it as being this complicated. Hit on head with club, drag by hair to cave. Viking, this is the 21st Century. Now they hit You over the head and drag you back to Their cave. Have you seen Stoned Age? Want to go clubbing? I wouldn't mind, especially if it was any of the females on this forum.
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Post by Art Vandelay on Nov 26, 2010 1:36:12 GMT -5
I wouldn't mind, especially if it was any of the females on this forum. But you're bald, meaning the only way they can drag you back to their cave by the hair is via your pubes or ass hair. I'll just leave you with that thought.
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