Miscarriages are horrible no matter who they happen too.
True. The miscarriages my wife suffered through were brutal on her emotionally, mentally, and physically. Which is why I took surgical measures to ensure she would never have to go through it again after it became obvious, and was explained to us by caring physicians, that it was highly unlikely that she would carry a fetus to term successfully. I love her. Far more than I love some as-yet-un-conceived potential child. So I went under the knife.
Which is also why I have nothing but contempt for her asshole husband and the entire fundie religious bullshit putting her through this. They KNOW that at this point her chances of carrying a healthy child to term are slim. And let's say a "miracle" does happen and she has a 20th, and that 20th has Down Syndrome. (A very likely scenario in reality.) Can you imagine that family trying to cope with such a Down Syndrome child? (They've been amazingly lucky so far. Simply by the odds they should have a couple of special-needs children already.) In what alternated reality does this family have the resources to care for a child like that? They don't really have the resources to care for the healthy children they currently have.
"Did you ever have one of those moments when you think, How the HELL did I get here? Geeze what HAPPENED to me? I was ruling the galaxy! Had a cherry new battlestation. I mean, this place had an omlet bar. A straight-up OMLET bar! Now look. My former intern's tossin me down a bottemless freaking pit. Come to think of it, my whole life has been a series of what the fuck moments." -Palpatine
Post by Caitshidhe on Dec 12, 2011 15:16:00 GMT -5
I'm sure a miscarriage is an emotionally draining and physically exhausting experience for a woman and often as well for her husband and other friends and relatives.
But I don't feel sorry for Michelle or Jim Bob (whose name is just so fucking stupid it causes me real physical discomfort to type)--if they were actual loving, caring parents then I might be inclined to feel bad for them, but they've proven themselves totally ambivalent and even uncaring with regard to the emotional health of their children. If they cared a shred for their kids, they would actually raise them and care for them themselves--not pass off feeding, caring, schooling, and general parental guidance to another child. Maybe in their own bizarre, fucked-up, backward way they think they DO love their kids. But then, some child molesters think that they do what they do out of 'love' for children. That doesn't make either interpretation of 'love' anywhere near okay.
The Duggars have proven time and again that they don't give a fuck about their kids once they're born. All they want is a head count--not a family. So I don't feel a shred of sympathy for Michelle for miscarrying. I think it saved a potential child from a lifetime of misery.
If you see me typing in "quotes", that's because I'm remembering what it was like to be a fundie and then typing as if I was one :3 "Please. Understand that I only want to share God's love with you. I mean you no harm, really. You need to stop sinning."