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Post by malicious_bloke on Mar 19, 2009 15:15:01 GMT -5
OK, it's not that I mind helping people where I can, but it does get a bit grating when they just expect me to drop what im doing and do stuff for them that they should be doing themselves.
The last few months I've been busily writing up my thesis (has done be done pretty much by august), which is fine and dandy...until my sister-in-law gets the idea that she can use me as a homework-helper for my nieces (high school age, my wife is the youngest in her family by a good 20 years).
Normally it's just a few chemistry questions, dont mind doing that, since im sort of a specialist...but tonight i get the inevitable phonecall and niece #2 has been instructed to make some little thing in javascript, has left it to the last minute and is all upset and can I sort something out(?!). Yeah it's not like im busy or anything.
Cheers very fucking much
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Post by captainhooker on Mar 19, 2009 15:39:40 GMT -5
just say no
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Post by malicious_bloke on Mar 19, 2009 15:46:29 GMT -5
Would do normally, but it's family innit. I don't have anything to do with most of my blood relations, i'm not about to alienate her ladyship's family too. Just wish they'd stop taking the piss with shit like this
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Post by schizophonic on Mar 19, 2009 19:19:55 GMT -5
I know it's not the same thing, but what I hate is how so many people ask me for favors, but make it out to be this huge deal when I ask them for favors. I mean, I do things for people when I can, and I rarely turn people down. I also like to be self-sufficient, so I rarely ask for help. Stupid pride, but that's another complaint. So I'll ask for help only a few times in a year, and usually people treat it like I asked them to donate me a kidney or something.
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Post by deliciousdemon on Mar 21, 2009 11:28:59 GMT -5
Would do normally, but it's family innit. I don't have anything to do with most of my blood relations, i'm not about to alienate her ladyship's family too. Just wish they'd stop taking the piss with shit like this I am not currently writing a thesis, but every once in awhile I will be researching for a very important paper or the like and I will get a request from a friend for some trivial biological matter like menstruation or something. It really does grate. They aren't family though, so usually I just tell them to wikipedia it and knock themselves out. As long as the thesis progresses on time maybe it is worth it to take the hit and consolidate familial ties?
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Post by headache on Mar 21, 2009 11:58:11 GMT -5
Would do normally, but it's family innit. I don't have anything to do with most of my blood relations, i'm not about to alienate her ladyship's family too. Just wish they'd stop taking the piss with shit like this When it is family, it is even more important to set clear limits and stick to them, no matter what. If not, call her up at 2am and ask the to get her ass over to your house because you need her help, right now! I'm sure it'll be the last time she'll ever ask you to drop everything and help out. Family is like fish - they start to stink after 3 days.
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Post by tygerarmy on Mar 22, 2009 0:34:28 GMT -5
I feel the same. I always help my friends if I'm able and I rarely ask for help but when I do it feels like I've ask them to chop off an arm.
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