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Post by percyqshunn on Aug 25, 2010 9:31:42 GMT -5
Oh, to be young and feel love's keen sting...
I grew up during the 70s & 80s, and as a musician at that time, I found that the more I acted like I didn't care, the more women threw themselves at me. But maybe they're different today. I am, anyway.
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Post by Mira on Aug 25, 2010 10:49:34 GMT -5
The moment I decided I wasn't even going to consider dating was when I got swarmed with flirtation and love letters. So yeah, Percy could be on to something...
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Post by Ian1732 on Aug 25, 2010 10:59:56 GMT -5
UPDATE!!! It turns out that my original plan of dedicating a song to her in my "AP choir" class won't work out like I planned, since it turns out she's in that class, too. I suppose I could go with plan B, giving her a CD for constructive criticism.
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Post by Sleepy on Aug 25, 2010 15:43:29 GMT -5
Do you want to date her? Or do you want to be friends? Because if the former is true, these actions are all extremely indirect. Hinting around isn't the best way to start a romantic relationship with somebody.
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Post by Bezron on Aug 25, 2010 15:47:13 GMT -5
And if it's the latter, you may come off as a stalker, no offense
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Post by Ian1732 on Aug 25, 2010 16:11:57 GMT -5
Do you want to date her? Or do you want to be friends? Because if the former is true, these actions are all extremely indirect. Hinting around isn't the best way to start a romantic relationship with somebody. Good point... Alright, so I suppose I should just ask her out to a movie or something, then, once school starts again.
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Post by Art Vandelay on Aug 25, 2010 21:14:21 GMT -5
The moment I decided I wasn't even going to consider dating was when I got swarmed with flirtation and love letters. So yeah, Percy could be on to something... Really? Because I practically radiate waves of utter contempt for any and all IRL human interaction and nobody seems to find me attractive.
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Post by Bezron on Aug 26, 2010 8:42:15 GMT -5
Indifference is not the same as contempt. Once comes off as cool and mysterious, the other comes off as serial killer dangerous
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Post by Phys on Aug 28, 2010 7:15:10 GMT -5
I have a similar result to Mira: of my friends and acquaintances, there are several who are somewhat attracted to me, but all of them are people who I wouldn't actually ask out (not that I wouldn't be willing to date most of them, but there isn't that indescribable spark). Likewise, apart from the person I love the most, but who has only ever seen me as a confidante and favourite admirer, the people I am attracted to are all uninterested in me.
This does seem to be a fairly common gripe amongst that group.
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Post by Smurfette Principle on Sept 3, 2010 22:07:49 GMT -5
Hello, Phys, are you me?
Situation: I have two guy friends. One goes to my school, and we have been mistaken for going out at least three times (we're both very huggy). My parents disapprove of my friendship with him. One goes to a school a little a way from me. We met over the summer and he chats with me online every day. My parents think he has a crush on me.
Complication: I don't know how Guy #2 feels. Also, we met at a summer camp, and at this summer camp, I had a quick romantic relationship with someone who we both became friends with. This would be my first relationship since I broke up with him.
Question: Should I ask either of them to homecoming, wait for Guy #1 to ask me (if he does), or go alone or with friends?
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Post by Sleepy on Sept 3, 2010 22:17:44 GMT -5
Hello, Phys, are you me? Situation: I have two guy friends. One goes to my school, and we have been mistaken for going out at least three times (we're both very huggy). My parents disapprove of my friendship with him. One goes to a school a little a way from me. We met over the summer and he chats with me online every day. My parents think he has a crush on me. Complication: I don't know how Guy #2 feels. Also, we met at a summer camp, and at this summer camp, I had a quick romantic relationship with someone who we both became friends with. This would be my first relationship since I broke up with him. Question: Should I ask either of them to homecoming, wait for Guy #1 to ask me (if he does), or go alone or with friends? Well, what do you want? Do you want to go with Guy 1? Do you want to go with anyone?
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Post by Her3tiK on Sept 3, 2010 23:04:24 GMT -5
Do you like guy #2 the way you think he likes you (I could write a cheesy song out of that), or would you only be asking to see what he says/does? Sorry if it seems like a dumb question, but you didn't exactly say. If you ask him to go only as friends, he'll be rather hurt by it if he does indeed have an interest in you.
Otherwise, going with your friend is a perfectly fine idea if you don't find someone special to go with (not that such a close friend isn't special; you know what I mean), though that will most certainly make it difficult to convince anyone that you aren't dating each other.
In any case though, if you have someone you really want to go with, being proactive about it and asking them can be a huge plus if you're looking for something more than friendship.
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Post by Smurfette Principle on Sept 5, 2010 0:14:37 GMT -5
I really do like Guy #2, but I don't want to be wrong and find out he just wants to be friends (oh, the irony of hating chick flicks and finding out your life is one). Guy #1 apparently has a crush on me, according to my matchmaking friend. And it's complica- ARGH.
Oh Powers That Be, why is this so difficult?
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Post by Vene on Sept 5, 2010 1:35:33 GMT -5
Go with both.
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Post by Mira on Sept 5, 2010 1:38:01 GMT -5
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