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Post by Sleepy on Sept 27, 2010 18:17:36 GMT -5
GOD DAMMIT, I can't do it! Why is it so hard, it's just seven goddamn words. "Will you go to Homecoming with me?" And I can hardly work up the nerve to say hello! How should I approach the situation, guys? I need strategies here! If possible, ask her when the two of you are alone together. You'll feel more comfortable when she's not surrounded by friends. If that situation isn't possible, use your judgment and ask her during the best time, like lunch. In an everyday conversation, steer the topic toward school, then toward homecoming, maybe by saying something you've heard about it, or a general statement like, "Homecoming's gonna be kickass this year." Then you can ask her if she planned on going. If she says she is going, that's when you ask her to go with you. If she agrees to go with you, great! If she says no, then just smile and remember to respect her decision.
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Post by Mira on Sept 27, 2010 18:21:56 GMT -5
Wear this shirt and then wink at her.
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Post by Ian1732 on Sept 27, 2010 18:41:27 GMT -5
GOD DAMMIT, I can't do it! Why is it so hard, it's just seven goddamn words. "Will you go to Homecoming with me?" And I can hardly work up the nerve to say hello! How should I approach the situation, guys? I need strategies here! If possible, ask her when the two of you are alone together. You'll feel more comfortable when she's not surrounded by friends. If that situation isn't possible, use your judgment and ask her during the best time, like lunch. In an everyday conversation, steer the topic toward school, then toward homecoming, maybe by saying something you've heard about it, or a general statement like, "Homecoming's gonna be kickass this year." Then you can ask her if she planned on going. If she says she is going, that's when you ask her to go with you. If she agrees to go with you, great! If she says no, then just smile and remember to respect her decision. You see, therein lies the problem; We have different lunch hours, and she never seems to be alone. On the few occasions I do see her without her friends, she's in the halls, or walking home. I don't know what'd feel wierder; chasing her down to ask her, or asking in front of her friends. And I don't want to stoop down to asking on Facebook either. If I'm going to do this, I want it to be face to face.
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Post by davedan on Sept 27, 2010 19:41:21 GMT -5
Walk home with her or bale her up in the hall - if she's keen she won't mind if she's not you'll know.
Just remember to have Art's sign ready because nothing says getting to know you like a close up of your genitalia.
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Post by Sleepy on Sept 28, 2010 14:33:08 GMT -5
If possible, ask her when the two of you are alone together. You'll feel more comfortable when she's not surrounded by friends. If that situation isn't possible, use your judgment and ask her during the best time, like lunch. In an everyday conversation, steer the topic toward school, then toward homecoming, maybe by saying something you've heard about it, or a general statement like, "Homecoming's gonna be kickass this year." Then you can ask her if she planned on going. If she says she is going, that's when you ask her to go with you. If she agrees to go with you, great! If she says no, then just smile and remember to respect her decision. You see, therein lies the problem; We have different lunch hours, and she never seems to be alone. On the few occasions I do see her without her friends, she's in the halls, or walking home. I don't know what'd feel wierder; chasing her down to ask her, or asking in front of her friends. And I don't want to stoop down to asking on Facebook either. If I'm going to do this, I want it to be face to face. If that's the case, you're going to have to choose the best possible time to do it. If you see her in the hallway, position yourself so she'll clearly see you. Then you can go over and talk for a couple minutes. If she's walking home, there's nothing wrong with going up to her and saying hi (unless you do a creepy stalker "hiiiiiii"). That gives you another chance. You just have to work up the courage to get those words out of your mouth. That's probably the hardest part. You can also invite her to hang out as friends and ask her then.
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Post by Ian1732 on Sept 29, 2010 17:04:06 GMT -5
Well, I decided that I was going to go ahead and ask her to homecoming today... The thing is, right when I decided that I was going to do it, I couldn't find her. At all. Fucking hell.
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Post by davedan on Sept 29, 2010 17:09:20 GMT -5
use the telephone mate
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Post by Sleepy on Sept 29, 2010 17:35:14 GMT -5
Just try again tomorrow. You'll find her.
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Post by Ian1732 on Sept 29, 2010 18:27:12 GMT -5
On the contrary, a bunch of students from my school are going to check out this college tomorrow, herself included. So that leaves me with just Friday. Or I'll probably end up asking over Facebook, anyway.
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Post by happycheeze on Sept 29, 2010 19:16:02 GMT -5
On the contrary, a bunch of students from my school are going to check out this college tomorrow, herself included. So that leaves me with just Friday. Or I'll probably end up asking over Facebook, anyway. I'd advise against that. Asking in person is definitely nerve wracking, but asking a girl out over facebook is kinda... it doesn't really say much about you? (or maybe it says the wrong thing about you?).
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Post by Sleepy on Sept 29, 2010 20:48:56 GMT -5
On the contrary, a bunch of students from my school are going to check out this college tomorrow, herself included. So that leaves me with just Friday. Or I'll probably end up asking over Facebook, anyway. Just my opinion, but I wouldn't be very eager to go to homecoming with a guy who asked me on facebook. He couldn't take time out of his day while we were at school to come up to me and say something? Definitely not appealing.
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Post by Phys on Sept 30, 2010 1:56:15 GMT -5
I've used the phone to successfully ask a girl to a ball with me, but that was because we only rarely had a chance to meet in person. Video chat is possibly better, because it is even more personal, but real life is better still. One approach I used in a similar situation was to write her a letter (saying, roughly, that I wanted to ask her in person but I hadn't seen her) and send it through the internal mail system so that she'd get it the evening after I next expected to see her. That way, if I didn't see her, she would still get the message, but if I did, I would have to ask her or I would look like a complete idiot, which meant that I could get my nerve up when she wasn't around.
The important rule I've learnt from serval unhappy situations is that it is always better to ask and be shot down than to not ask and never know, or not ask until too late. Unless you have a perfect moment planned to ask her, the best thing to do is to chose the first moment which isn't completely inappropriate. If she already knows how you feel about her, simply walking up to her, asking her for a word (alone, if she is with others), and just asking her straight-out is usually the way to go: adding complexity adds ways for things to come unraveled, and more chances for you to lose your nerve.
The only two times I have regretted asking a girl out (not counting the sad time when a relationship dies suddenly, which I've usually gotten over fairly quickly) have been once when I was sloshed, and made a complete idiot of myself in public, for which I was never forgiven by the girl in question, and once when I asked out someone who turned out to be a psycho bitch. However, I've regretted, many times, not asking someone out when i had the chance.
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Post by Napoleon the Clown on Sept 30, 2010 2:30:59 GMT -5
On the contrary, a bunch of students from my school are going to check out this college tomorrow, herself included. So that leaves me with just Friday. Or I'll probably end up asking over Facebook, anyway. Perhaps you can use the Facebook to arrange carpooling or hanging out, and after that you can ask her out to Homecoming.
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Post by Ian1732 on Oct 2, 2010 12:09:33 GMT -5
Well, I finally worked up the balls to ask her in person. She said she wasn't planning on going to the dance, because she was going to be helping her sister with her own homecoming. And now I don't know what to think.
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Post by Art Vandelay on Oct 2, 2010 12:11:28 GMT -5
That's two dodges so far. From where I'm sitting, it's not lookin' good my friend.
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