Post by erictheblue on Apr 21, 2009 16:33:43 GMT -5
First, I am going to say I do not want this thread to turn into a flame-fest like the "why would people want kids" thread. I admit to adding to that flame-fest, but am going to try to keep this one on-topic and NOT about kids...
I have been single for about 3 years now. Part of that is because I was hurting from the ending of a relationship. Part is because I was starting transition and did not want the hassle of a relationship as well. (I didn't pass as male very well, but did not want to get involved with a lesbian since I assumed I would start identifying and passing more as time passed.)
I have been on testosterone for 2.5 years now and pass very well. So every once in a while, I get the urge to read personals ads, looking for a date. Just about every time I do, I find a few ads that sound promising. Then I get to this line... "I'm a single mom."
Now, I have no problem with people who have kids - great on them if that is what they want. But, as I have said before, I do not want to be a parent. That includes becoming a step-parent to someone else's kid(s). (I know that date =/= marriage, but why start something that you know has no long-term future?)
I'm starting to wonder if there are any single CF women near my age in this area. I know part of the problem is my age - it's rare for women to get into their 30s without having a kid. But it does get discouraging to get my hopes up, then have them come crashing down.
I have been single for about 3 years now. Part of that is because I was hurting from the ending of a relationship. Part is because I was starting transition and did not want the hassle of a relationship as well. (I didn't pass as male very well, but did not want to get involved with a lesbian since I assumed I would start identifying and passing more as time passed.)
I have been on testosterone for 2.5 years now and pass very well. So every once in a while, I get the urge to read personals ads, looking for a date. Just about every time I do, I find a few ads that sound promising. Then I get to this line... "I'm a single mom."
Now, I have no problem with people who have kids - great on them if that is what they want. But, as I have said before, I do not want to be a parent. That includes becoming a step-parent to someone else's kid(s). (I know that date =/= marriage, but why start something that you know has no long-term future?)
I'm starting to wonder if there are any single CF women near my age in this area. I know part of the problem is my age - it's rare for women to get into their 30s without having a kid. But it does get discouraging to get my hopes up, then have them come crashing down.
