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Post by ironbite on Jul 6, 2009 20:48:43 GMT -5
In Death & Dying, there was a chapter that talked about how people understood death at different ages. Naturally, I can't remember any of it. Have you tried an analogy about the hermit crab being broken & not functioning any more? Why can't I get Short Circuit out of my head now? Ironbite-NO DISSESSEMBLE!
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Post by canadian mojo on Jul 6, 2009 21:41:33 GMT -5
Have you tried an analogy about the hermit crab being broken & not functioning any more? I used that on my two year old when she was playing with an ant that had found its way into the house and the inevitable happened. She put it in the garbage like a good girl.
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Post by Admiral Lithp on Jul 7, 2009 18:59:36 GMT -5
That probably wouldn't work with a little kid like Nick's because "broken" means "take it to Daddy and he can fix it." But I get where you're going with that. Plus, it might make the kid think he broke the crab somehow! Both of these possibilities occured to me, however: 1) There are plenty of toys that just stop working after a while. 2) There are plenty of times you just can't fix a thing when it's broken. In other words, MOAR ANALOGIES!
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Post by dantesvirgil on Jul 7, 2009 19:47:31 GMT -5
Yes, but a three year old's ability to reason this out might be somewhat limited.
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Post by Admiral Lithp on Jul 7, 2009 22:01:11 GMT -5
Yes, but a three year old's ability to reason this out might be somewhat limited. That's where the "explanation" factor comes in.
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Post by dantesvirgil on Jul 7, 2009 22:20:01 GMT -5
LOL. Yes. Explain it to a three year old, and then give us the report. You can do all the help you want in reasoning it out for him. Doesn't mean he'll get it necessarily. The logic stage happens quite a few years later.
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Post by Thejebusfire on Jul 7, 2009 22:35:29 GMT -5
Oh, that's so sad. You'll just have to explain to him that 'Superman' isn't coming back.
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Post by canadian mojo on Jul 8, 2009 8:52:45 GMT -5
LOL. Yes. Explain it to a three year old, and then give us the report. You can do all the help you want in reasoning it out for him. Doesn't mean he'll get it necessarily. The logic stage happens quite a few years later. Oh, they use logic. The problem is it's a form of alien logic from a parallel universe with different rules than our own.
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Post by dantesvirgil on Jul 8, 2009 10:17:02 GMT -5
Isn't that the truth! Makes sense to them.
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Post by Marc on Jul 9, 2009 6:10:55 GMT -5
Y'know I just so happen to know a Necromancer who lives a few houses away. Although I think his license was revoked. At first, all I could think of was Pet Cemetary. Now all I can think of is hordes of zombie hermit crabs wandering the streets, a la, Night of the Living Dead... Marc
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Post by Maryland Bear on Jul 9, 2009 6:29:22 GMT -5
When my brother died, he left behind a three year old son. Now, I know "your daddy is dead" is a lot more serious than "your turtle is dead", but...
I can't remember how my brother's widow actually dealt with, but the funeral home gave us some pamphlets that Mister Rogers wrote on explaining death to a child. The key point was "don't sugar coat it. Use the word dead. Let them see the body (if its in a shape anyone would want to see it. Obviously, this doesn't apply to car accident victims, for instance), because what they're imagining is probably much worse."
Sorry for taking so long to reply to the original question, but its still weird sometimes talking about my brother's death.
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Post by m52nickerson on Jul 9, 2009 7:09:56 GMT -5
Not a problem. While dropping my boy off at day care today I heard him tell his teacher that "Superman Crab is dead. I no see him again." I explained to his teacher what had happened. He was not sad when telling her or anything. It seemed to come out of now were.
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Post by dantesvirgil on Jul 9, 2009 11:03:51 GMT -5
Well, then you did a good job, nick! Good work.
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Post by ironbite on Jul 9, 2009 12:07:44 GMT -5
Or maybe your son is no so traumatized, he's now a ticking time bomb waiting to start a murder orgy at age 16. And the fundies will blame you for telling him that Superman Crab is dead.
Ironbite-and I shit you not, this is probably going through the minds of some RR lurkers.
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