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Post by Admiral Lithp on Jul 29, 2009 17:17:12 GMT -5
Unfortunately, I have to finish the job for my own brain. I wonder who the Hell finds that kind of woman attractive. Clayton Middleinitial Puppington, that's who. Why? Because. Exalt.
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Post by Old Viking on Jul 29, 2009 19:55:56 GMT -5
Fifty-fifty is the way it should be. But here's a tip for the men: I married my wife 52 years ago on a yearly contract basis. I need not renew it on our anniversary. (Thus far, however, she has done well.)
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Post by schizophonic on Jul 29, 2009 21:00:10 GMT -5
I'm rather annoyed by the subtext in the RR post that implies a woman has to take all the responsibility for the man's welfare, yet also has to be obedient and accommodating to him. That's a no-win situation for the woman. How are you supposed to take care of a man properly if you have to do everything he asks? I'm pretty sure they don't want women to win....
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Post by DeadpanDoubter on Jul 29, 2009 21:50:49 GMT -5
Marriage means commitment. If you don't commit to him before marriage, don't marry him. If you can't joyfully and fully look forward to being married to him, don't marry him. If you have any reservations at all, don't do it. Do you suppose they keep this little rule in mind when they arrange shotgun weddings for the pre-maritally pregnant, teenage daughters? I agree that the SOLE reason for marriage should be because both partners wish to, in a way, 'validate' their relationship in the eyes of society, but they shouldn't even think about it in the middle of a crisis (i.e. unexpected pregnancy).
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Post by AXavierB on Jul 30, 2009 0:59:53 GMT -5
A lot of the advice is good, but for the fact that there's only one instance where it's pointed out that the good treatment should be mutual.
The part about agreeing with your husband in public whether he's right or wrong was bullshit, though. If someone's wrong and I know it, I'll point it out, not side with them. That's stupid. And doesn't it count as lying to side with something you know isn't true? Why would a fundie support dishonesty?
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Post by rookie on Jul 31, 2009 13:36:03 GMT -5
Ok, that made me laugh for a number of reasons. First, I have a hard time with anyone telling me there is a way something has to be done, even worse if it's something subjective or personal. I've always looked at that like a challenge. Second, I have an old cookbook from the '40s. I very rarely use it (take 1 1/2 lb lard, add 3 C butter, etc) but I like looking at it every now and then. One of the chapters is called "10 Cakes to Please Your Man". Another chapter starts with this: "Your husband works hard all day, every day, to support you. Show him how much you appreciate it by cooking him one of these meat dishes!" That rambling post on how to treat your man reminds me of that cookbook. It's like a window to another era.
Tonight, I'm going to have to let the missus read the OP.
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Post by devilschaplain2 on Jul 31, 2009 16:07:33 GMT -5
Because your body is no longer yours once you're married. What a bunch of primitive fuckheads.
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Post by yojetak on Jul 31, 2009 16:20:39 GMT -5
Because your body is no longer yours once you're married. What a bunch of primitive fuckheads. I couldn't think of anything more off-putting than having sex with a person who's not into it. I guess rape is not only okay but demanded! fucking assholes.
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Post by Jedi Knight on Jul 31, 2009 17:04:22 GMT -5
Just the title of that thread made me want to vomit. Why do women have to be taught to love their husbands? Love is supposed to come naturally and be the basis for marriage in the first place. Of course, it's easy to see why these misogynistic pricks are having such a hard time feeling loved. If you treat your partner like a second class citizen, then you deserve what you get. Take it from a man who has lived with the same woman for eleven years. Love may come naturally, but it won't stay with you unless you work at it. Both women and men may seek advice frome someone outside at times, and be better off for it. You don't have to invent the powder every time you have a problem in your relationship.
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Post by ironbite on Jul 31, 2009 18:56:12 GMT -5
Because your body is no longer yours once you're married. What a bunch of primitive fuckheads. I couldn't think of anything more off-putting than having sex with a person who's not into it. I guess rape is not only okay but demanded! fucking assholes. I know a few women have rape fantasies and everything but to assume that everyone does? Ironbite-stupid fundies.
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Post by Admiral Lithp on Jul 31, 2009 19:00:01 GMT -5
I couldn't think of anything more off-putting than having sex with a person who's not into it. I guess rape is not only okay but demanded! fucking assholes. I know a few women have rape fantasies and everything but to assume that everyone does? Ironbite-stupid fundies. Thing is, rape fantasies aren't really reflective of actual rape. You're still in control. It is, after all, your fantasy.
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Post by Jedi Knight on Jul 31, 2009 19:04:45 GMT -5
Thing is, rape fantasies aren't really reflective of actual rape. You're still in control. It is, after all, your fantasy. Exactly. Also, the fantasies are still sexual, real rape isn't about sex.
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Post by devilschaplain2 on Jul 31, 2009 20:45:28 GMT -5
I couldn't think of anything more off-putting than having sex with a person who's not into it. I guess rape is not only okay but demanded! fucking assholes. I know a few women have rape fantasies and everything but to assume that everyone does? Ironbite-stupid fundies. Actually I've known two girls who did the whole rape fantasy thing too. It usually goes with the BDSM territory but not always.
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Post by devilschaplain2 on Jul 31, 2009 20:47:38 GMT -5
Unfortunately, I have to finish the job for my own brain. I wonder who the Hell finds that kind of woman attractive. Clayton Middleinitial Puppington, that's who. Why? Because. "Love is a very beautiful, very intense feeling for a startlingly short period of time. Before long you realize it gets in the way of the real important things in life like going to sleep or being left alone. That's when love starts to fade and lies kick in." -Clay Puppington
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Post by The_L on Jul 31, 2009 21:41:33 GMT -5
The Raptards would absolutely hate me and my s/o...We've bandied about the idea of me as the breadwinner and him as a stay-at-home dad--and depending on what kind of job I end up with, it may just become the reality for us.
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