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Post by Trillian on Feb 26, 2010 5:06:55 GMT -5
to be fair though, i have the same atheism book, and there is a chapter on burning down churches ;D This really made me lol, just thought I'd let you know ;D
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Post by Trillian on Dec 1, 2009 4:54:22 GMT -5
I've always dated older guys.
I was 16, he was 21 - 5 years I was 18, he was 28 - 10 years I was 20, he was 36 - 16 years. I was 23, hew was 30 - 7 years.
(These are all four of my "serious" relationships.) I don't think age is a problem at all. It's about consent and not taking advantage of youngsters. You are both adults, so as long as you are both happy, then don't sweat it!
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Post by Trillian on Dec 1, 2009 4:10:05 GMT -5
I can only tell of my actual experience with my already present child. She was told there was a 'Santa' (we call him Father Christmas) from when she could understand. I never knew about the 'coal for bad girls and boys' so that was never incorporated into the myth. It was more of a fun and exciting thing, than an 'if you are naughty - you get nothing' threat.
At Christmas last year she asked me directly if Father Christmas was real. I thought about it for a moment, and didn't want to just kill the myth with a straight out 'no'. I also didn't want to straight out lie and say 'yes'. I just asked if it was more fun to believe he was real or not real. She said 'real', and thats what we've done from that day on.
She KNOWS he's not real, but she plays along with the fantasy because it's more fun. I will continue to hide her gifts until they get put under the tree on Christmas Eve until such a time as she does not spend Christmas in our home anymore. Father Christmas will be present in our home for as long as possible.
I remember the days of Santa as wondrous, exciting and fun. The grown ups throwing rocks on the roof to pretend the reindeer were landing, so we would all go to bed. The excitement of seeing the few things Father Christmas brought on Christmas morning. It was really awesome and I wouldn't have traded it for anything in the world. I am not hurt or damaged or feel betrayed because my mom told us Father Christmas was real. You grow up, you understand, you get it. If you are sane you don't feel betrayed by it.
As the parent to a young child, the worst part of the Santa myth is that that fat old bastard gets all the credit, when I'm the one who spent seven million hours shopping for things she loves!!
As for all the "how can you lie to children" comments. We lie every single day. If you are a person who tell the truth all the time, regardless of the repercussions of your truth, you are probably an asshole.
When my daughter does her best rendition of some Miley song, am I supposed to tell her that it actually wasn't that great, in fact it gave me a bit of a headache or do I tell her it was beautiful, and could she sing me another? Lying is part of being a good parent.
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Post by Trillian on Nov 25, 2009 3:59:11 GMT -5
It was never an issue, because it's always been like that. It's also more affordable and totally omits the problem of kids being teased because they don't wear the 'right' kind of clothes. I grew up poor - casual clothes to school would have been HELL! Sorry, I have to call complete and utter bullshit on the "it's more affordable" thing. Uniform policies simply force parents to have to buy clothes specifically for school on top of their children's normal wardrobe. No one I know wore their uniform for a second longer than they had to once they were home. Changing is typically the first thing they did. So not only does it increase the clothing budget, it also doubles the kid's daily laundry load. Further, before uniform policies were enacted in my area, I didn't exactly wear high-end clothing. I never heard a peep out of anyone about my cheap-o clothes. No one really cared, and I wouldn't have given a shit about the opinion of anyone who did anyway. The problem, at least in regard to clothes, is nowhere near as big as the people who endorse uniform policies in schools like to make it seem. Of course, none of that really matters. Private organizations like businesses or private schools can set their own rules. Ones funded by my tax dollars are subject to the Constitution, which includes freedom of expression. And I am going to have to bullshit your bullshit. The school uniforms are 'standard' for most government schools and a white shirt and gray shorts can be bought for around R80-00 (thats about $10). 2nd hand school clothing is even cheaper. Having spent all my school years in 2nd hand uniforms and a lot of 2nd hand casual clothing, I really am talking from experience. Also, most schools will buy back your uniforms once they are too small for your kid. I'm glad that you were never teased as a child, this is not the case for everyone though. I never wore cheap-o clothes. I wore second hand clothes that were often too small for me. I grew up in a shit-poor neighborhood, and the 'rich' kids did tease and taunt, and it really wasn't pleasant (understatement of this week). YOUR experience does not define EVERYONES experience. Sometimes being poor is hard on a kid. Wearing a uniform (even second hand) made me feel the same as all the other kids. It helped me to fit in and not be the poor kid. Advocates for non-uniform policy don't seem to get that it IS as big a deal as it is made out to be. Uniforms are standard policy for ALL schools, government or private. In fact, private schools tend to have a higher leniency toward casual wear. You can express your freedom as soon as you leave the school grounds. The way you dress and act does not only reflect on yourself, it reflects on those around you, your parents, your school, your friends. Having a little respect by putting aside a little of your 'personal freedom' is part of belonging to The Real World.
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Post by Trillian on Nov 24, 2009 8:55:23 GMT -5
Your disdain for common logic is noted, captainhooker, now kindly shut the fuck up towards me until you learn to show respect. Furthermore, you do not ever, EVER, tell me to leave. You are not staff here and you never will be with an attitude like yours. You are not in a position of authority over me in any way; I suggest you learn this and act accordingly. Please note that there is also one other difference between school and work: You do not get paid for going to school. IN fact, one must pay for it or have it paid for. In light of this, also demanding a level of obedience and conformity is beyond what is acceptable. Then there is also the issue of treating school like work as a reflection of schooling's transformation from a method of education to a method of preparing people for a life of corporate drudgery, which is frightening to no end. EDIT: And damn if RH-00 didn't say it better than I could anyway. Fuck it all, then. I have never known Captain Hooker, in any comment he has ever made, to be rude or disrespectful. I think the "you" he was referring to was a general 'you' and not YOU specifically. I really don't think he meant to offend you. I also agree with him. In the real world, sometimes you work at a sucky job, because thats the only one you can get (do you think people who are 30+ WANT to work at McD's?) Schools should teach you that sometimes you HAVE to conform, sometimes you HAVE to let go of a little of your individuality. They are basic social skills and we all have to learn them at one time or another. Sure, we would all be happier if we could just be who we wanted to be all the time, but that is not reality. It doesn't matter how many letters you have behind your name, if you walk into a job interview looking like you just woke up and haven't bathed for three weeks - you will more than likely be judged on your appearance and you won't get the job. Is it fair - absolutely not. Is it reality - you bet. In any event, we wear school uniforms from Grade 1 to Grade 12 and all school children have to abide by a strict dress code. Boys have to have short hair. Girls have to tie their hair up. No make-up or jewelry is permitted AT ALL. It was never an issue, because it's always been like that. It's also more affordable and totally omits the problem of kids being teased because they don't wear the 'right' kind of clothes. I grew up poor - casual clothes to school would have been HELL!
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Post by Trillian on Nov 18, 2009 5:16:17 GMT -5
I'm 33 years old, and have decided to get my first degree next year - going back to school is scary and weird (I'm studying correspondance, since I have a full time job already.)
Good luck to you!
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Post by Trillian on Oct 16, 2009 9:37:53 GMT -5
Agnostic, and still trying to figure it all out. I get to sleep late (until about 8am) on a Sunday but usually stay in my pyjamas until about 11 or 12. I don't agree with organised religion so church is definately out!
And welcome . . .
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Post by Trillian on Oct 8, 2009 2:45:14 GMT -5
Thanks David and M52.
Yeah, Old Viking, that would work if mom knew how to answer the question ;-)
Glad I could come here for help though!!
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Post by Trillian on Oct 7, 2009 8:43:19 GMT -5
Thank you all very much. Bluefinger and Mantorok, you both said pretty much the same thing and it seems so easy now that I know the answer (doesn't it always)!! At least now my poor little eight year old doesn't have to deal with my "round and round" explanation and I can explain it to her in a way she'll understand!!
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Post by Trillian on Oct 7, 2009 7:56:38 GMT -5
x = cows y = chickens x+y=36 and 4x+2y=92 x+y-36=4x+2y-92 x+y=4x+2y-56 0=3x+y-56 3x=-y+56 x=(-y+56)/3:-) I actually did understand that, but I'm afraid if she gave that answer in class, they would probably ship her off to some gifted school or something. But thanks though, the more I think about it, it seems the process of elimination is the only way to get to the answer (10), because you have two unknowns, so mathematically, your answer is always going to be an "xy" combination. But at this level they are looking for a numerical answer.
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Post by Trillian on Oct 7, 2009 7:44:12 GMT -5
Wouldn't you be looking for a formula that similar to this: 0 = y(2a+b) + x(a+b) y for cows, x for chickens, a for legs, b for eyes. Correct if I'm wrong, but that's what immediately popped into mind after a quick bit of writing down. Thanks Bluefinger, sorry for asking this, but I tried to work it out using that formula on my own, but I can't. Keeping in mind that both y and x are unknown, and only a and b are known, how would you get to the answer (i.e. 10)? Step by step, please? I feel terribly stupid, since this is a fourth grade question!!
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Post by Trillian on Oct 7, 2009 6:11:40 GMT -5
Okay this is going to be a bit odd, but I have a question related to my daughters Grade 4 mathematics (yes, Grade 4 and I don't know the formula).
The question goes like this :
A farm has some chickens and some cows. Altogether they have 72 eyes and 92 legs. How many cows are on the farm?
Now I know the answer is 10 cows. But I worked this out through a process of elimination rather than a mathematical formula. I need to know if there is a formula for calculating this answer (and what that formula is) or if a process of elimination is the only way?
Thanks!
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Post by Trillian on Sept 8, 2009 5:41:30 GMT -5
I read that latest entry of hers and have taken notice of all this crap about President Obamas speech, and would like to put forward this.
Lets say for one moment President Obama is evil incarnate and his plan is to take over the world. Okay, now answer me this, what kind of special power does this guy have that will completely indoctrinate every school child in one speech? Does he have super powers? Mind Control, maybe? Is he in fact a super hero (or villain, as the case is implied), and being The President of the United States is his cover?
WHY?? I can't understand all the uproar about this? Even if you don't agree with his policy, what do these morons think he is going to be speaking to young children about?
And really, if you are a fundie who has been brainwashing your child since birth, and President Obama can undo all your nastiness with one speech, then you are not a very good fundie, and need to be taken to task about your lack of fundie brainwashing skills, and maybe drink some cool aide.
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Post by Trillian on Sept 8, 2009 5:06:16 GMT -5
Happy Birthday Lithp.
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Post by Trillian on Sept 1, 2009 8:47:56 GMT -5
I neglected to mention how much it annoys me when people expect me to remember them by voice (not personal calls - I know all my friends and families voices), but business calls.
I get 30 - 50 calls a day dude - how am I supposed to remember your voice specifically. I have a few valuable clients I speak to daily whose voices I do recognise, but when that sales rep who phones me once a month expects me to recognise his voice it really annoys the crap out of me. And then we must play the guessing game "Do you know who this is?" Me "No" "Aw, c'mon take a guess" Me "I have no idea" thinking I would desperately like to just put the phone down right this minute.
Gaaarghhh, tell me your name, or go away - I'm busy here!
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